There has been a big shift in America in how men and women decide to get married. In early America, parents had a very high level of authority and responsibility over who their children married. This was partly driven by economic and social factors, where the parents were more concerned about continuing the family line and ensuring that their children and grandchildren would not starve to death than whether the two getting married were emotionally compatible with one another. As time went on and America became wealthier, engagement and marriage became less about financial stability and more of a courtship arrangement. The parents were not arranging the marriages as much as they were overseeing the interests of their children. As we lost our understanding of a biblical worldview, and focused on pleasure rather than duty and obligation, the marriage process has become more about the emotional and physical response to the relationship rather than establishing a productive home where both could safely establish their future. And while some may disagree, we would argue strongly that this modern approach to marriage has failed dramatically. In response, many are choosing to never get married or cohabitating for years, but behaving as if they are married to see if the emotions last, but none of this solves the underlying problems. For the last fifty years, about half of marriages end in divorce, people are not happier in their relationships and their families, and marriage rates have declined significantly. So let’s start off with a question: why is dating such a terrible way to establish marriages?
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